Okay! So we got the go-ahead from Dr. C late last month and Jenn got her period shortly after we got the good news. Which brings us to this month and our first insemination attempt at home. According to our app we use to track her period, she was due to ovulate around the 12th of July. We have found a donor whom we have fallen in love with…his name is Todd and he donates to Cryos International in NYC. He is an open-ID donor which means if we conceive using his sperm, our child will be able to contact him once he or she turns 18 to find out information such as genetics, health history, or just what his favorite band is. We liked Todd a lot not only because he looks a lot like my younger brother (they give you a free childhood photo along with his biography so you can see what he could contribute to your own child’s looks) so our child would look like both Jenn and I but also because of his reason for donating – he had a friend that was a single woman and she used a sperm bank to conceive her child and when he saw how happy she was he wanted to be able to help others like her make their own families too. Also he has a child of his own, is happily married and to top it all off, his wife totally supports his choice to donate. So he’s a winner all the way around!
Now comes the tricky part…what do we do?! Luckily the Cryos website is super informative and pretty easy to use. You just have to know what type of sperm sample you need to purchase (IUI -which just means the sperm sample is “washed” of dead sperm and is usually for intrauterine inseminations in a doctor’s office but can also be used at home, or ICI – which is an “unwashed” or “normal” sample used for intracervical inseminations either in a doctor’s office or at home) and what motility you need (the higher the motility means the higher number of viable sperm in a sample after thawing). You pick how many straws to order (this translates to how many attempts – 1 straw = 1 insemination attempt) and voila! You pay and have it shipped to you. We picked a mid-range motility (MOT20) and ordered two straws because it is recommended to try twice per cycle for best results. We had an issue with the credit card not picking up on the website since we had just moved (very nerve-wracking when you are talking about $1200!!), but the next day Jenn called Cryos and got everything all straightened out. Not to mention, we now have a contact at Cryos named Ty, and he is an extremely nice gentleman who really helped us through some of the process. Good thing because he really came in handy!
So according to her period tracker, she was supposed to ovulate on July 12, which was a Tuesday. We ordered the sperm to be delivered on Tuesday, but when we woke up on July 8 (Friday) and did our normal morning routine – poof! She got a positive OPK. Oh no! After a minor meltdown about how she was early and the egg is only good for a day and what do we do now because the sperm won’t be here until next week and we already paid for it!!!!!!! etc. etc. etc….I calmed her down and assured her that it would be OK. I’m sure these things happen all the time. Just call Ty when they open at 9 and I’m sure they can figure something out for us.
Which of course, they did! Ty was super awesome and assured us that yes, these things do happen frequently. So instead of charging us the normal fee he put one straw into cryo-storage for free for the next few months and had the other straw shipped to us for rush Saturday delivery by noon for no extra charge! Awesome!
Fast-forward to Saturday morning…the Stork (aka Mr. FedEx) delivers our baby batter to our doorstep in what looks like the remnants of some post-Vietnam bombshell. No really, this is what the sperm comes in:
Inside of said bombshell is the nitrogen tank:
And inside is our straw of baby batter along with the needle-less syringe needed to inseminate:
I’m sure you can guess what comes next and there’s no need to go into detail, but it ends with Jenn lying on her back with two pillows shoved under her butt and her legs propped up against the wall for an hour LOL Regardless, although stressful and scary, it was fun and exciting and we are hopeful, though cautiously so. It can’t happen on the first try, right? Rest assured, we will keep you posted…