8 Weeks

8 Weeks

Baby is now the size of a raspberry and is growing about a millimeter every day this week and continuing to straighten out in the trunk. Eyelids cover baby’s eyes, breathing tubes extend from the throat to the branches of the developing lungs, and the “tail” is just about gone. In baby’s brain, nerve cells are branching out to connect with one another, forming primitive neural pathways. And although you can’t feel it (yet!), baby is moving those little arms and legs and (now only slightly) webbed fingers and toes like crazy.

J doesn’t care for raspberries but I’m sure she likes this one! 🙂

As you can see, baby is busy in there this week! You all know that we got to hear his/her strong beating heart on Thursday (which in my humble opinion was the best day yet!) and today, baby is putting his/her party pants on and having a celebration. Today is our Big Gay Jewish Wedding Party and we are very excited to see our friends and family, get a chance to catch up, and share our joyful news in person. Today is going to be a great day for the Joneses!

Now, I have to go grab breakfast for my “babies” (I call J and the baby, collectively, “babies”). J’s finally started gaining a little bit of an appetite, and me…well I don’t function well without breakfast. Wish us luck and a great time today with little to no glitches! 🙂


Everything Changes In A Heartbeat

As you all know, today was the day we had our second ultrasound at the fertility doctor to hear the baby’s heartbeat. I picked J up from work and we drove to the doctor together, filled with nervous excitement. We checked in and since we were the only ones there, we were called back right away. Our usual protocol of questions about how J has been feeling followed and the nurse took her vitals and weighed her. She hasn’t gained any weight since the last appointment, but I think I’ve gained 10 pounds for her instead! 🙂

We went back into the ultrasound room and waited for the doctor to come in…the anticipation growing with each second that passed. Finally the doctor and our favorite nurse came in and the ultrasound began. Once the lights went out, the doctor began taking measurements of our baby and we (im)patiently waited to hear the heartbeat.

I don’t think anyone who has not been in this same situation could ever understand the jumble of emotions that course through you while waiting to hear that heartbeat, especially for the first time. For what felt like an unreasonable amount of time (although it was actually only a minute) we waited with bated breath and I stared at the ultrasound screen and at our baby. He/She has grown so big in the two weeks since last time! And finally, when we couldn’t possibly wait any longer, the doctor flipped the switch and we heard the most wonderful sound: our baby’s beating heart, fast and strong, and we could even see it flickering on the screen. At that moment nothing else mattered and I felt the biggest grin spread across my face. I’m glad it was dark in there or else I would have looked like the Cheshire Cat for sure. Everything changed in a heartbeat, and I finally felt like this was really happening for us. I think we are literally the happiest people on earth today. 🙂

J had the forethought to have me record the heartbeat on her phone, and although it is kind of difficult to hear, in reality it was perfect. Not one skip or delay, but a steady, strong, beating heart doing a great job of keeping our baby alive and growing! We went back and listened to it and figured that the heartbeat was about 130-140 beats per minute (which, if the old wives’ tales can be trusted, a heart beat less than 140 could be a boy! You know I’m hopeful, since I’m one of the (very) few that think we may have a little boy in there. 🙂 Guess you’ll have to stick around to find out!)

It is a little hard to hear without headphones, but you can have a listen below:

Today did have a touch of sadness too, as it will be the last time we’ll be visiting Viera Fertility Clinic, at least until we’re ready to get me pregnant! Dr. Chamoun and his staff have been so good to us throughout this whole journey, and I am so happy that we got to work with them. Although the high copay made us cringe each time we went in, we are very thankful for them. We were released back to our regular OBGYN, Dr. Connors, and got our adjusted due date of February 13, 2013. In a way it feels almost like starting over and we don’t know what to expect any more. But that’s okay, because we better get used to that feeling!

Our Big Gay Jewish Wedding Party is on Saturday and we are both so excited to share our love and joy with our family and friends. We have not only the heartbeat to share but also the video of our wedding ceremony in Washington, D.C. so everyone can experience it. We are so lucky and thankful for the support we have and that our baby is going to be born into such a great family, not just blood family but our chosen family too. 🙂

And finally, here are the newest pictures of our little one, all safe and snuggly in J’s womb. I think it looks like a heart in the second picture! I love my wife and our baby so much and can’t wait to meet him/her…February can’t come soon enough!

Keeping Up With The Joneses

Hello everyone! Today it is finally officially official….I am now Bethany Jones! I began leaving my old name behind a couple weeks ago when I got my new Social Security card and today I finally got down to the DMV to update my ID and car registration. After an hour long wait due to a power outage and general system issues at the DMV (its always something, right?) I left with my new ID and name in hand. Tonight I changed my name on all my accounts and the last things to update are our banking and my workplace. It feels so good to finally have this all done and not be stuck in limbo between the two names. 🙂

In total, it only cost me about $60 for everything, which is great because some people in our grand anti-gay state of Florida have had to do legal name changes through a court order which can cost a boat-load of dinero, or go a roundabout way and get a Passport name change first and then go to the DMV for a new ID. I decided to take my chances and hope to be treated like any other American and did my name change the old-fashioned way – I took my marriage certificate and updated Social Security card to the DMV and asked for them to change it…and they did! It may not sound like a big deal, but for me, it was a tiny personal lesbian victory! I have to say it was a lot less stressful than I thought it would be and for once I didn’t feel singled out, discriminated against, or “gay”; I felt like Bethany, a happily married woman who gets the same treatment as anyone else in this country, just like any of us deserve to be treated.

Life is good. 🙂

Now we just need to get our wills, powers of attorney, health care directives, and all that other legal stuff taken care of so our family is solid in the eyes of the law in preparation for Baby Jones’ arrival in February. Although my name change was a small personal victory, our state is (sadly) a long way away from equal rights and recognition for gay and lesbian families, hence the need for all of the legal paperwork to make our family “official” too. It sucks to have to validate our family this way, but alas, we have to do what we have to do until Florida catches up with the rest of civilized world.

Speaking of name changes, I’ve changed the title of the blog. While we are still lesbians making babies (YAY!), we are also now a united front, the Joneses. I thought it was fitting. One of our idols, Suze Orman, says that women often don’t realize the power of their own name. So having that in mind, this blog has a new name, and I hope you continue reading along and Keeping Up With The Joneses. 🙂

Ultrasound Thursday…we can’t wait!!

7 Weeks

Despite a rough start to this week in baby’s life, we have arrived safely at the weekend and therefore the 7 week mark. Baby is now a yummy little blueberry!! Every day we are so thankful for the little one growing inside of J’s belly and never take it for granted. Of course J knows the baby is in there, what with the nausea, heartburn, indigestion, and sleepless nights. Our baby’s not waiting until after its born to start keeping her up all night!

This past Sunday, J started spotting. It was not bright red and she wasn’t having cramps, but it was still terrifying. Coupled with the fact that it happened after we…um…had some “adult time” together, I felt so guilty and worried that I had hurt her or the baby! The thought of losing the baby we’d worked so hard for wrecked us. She called the doctor and I, of course, Googled the hell out of it, and apparently this is a pretty normal occurrence at this stage in pregnancy. Of course, couple that with the fact that the rate of miscarriage is generally higher in the first trimester and before you hear the heartbeat, we were so scared and worried for our little one. The doctor abated our fears and advised J to take it easy for a few days (and no “adult time” for a little while). We have our next ultrasound appointment this upcoming Thursday and we will get to hear the heartbeat then. I’m sure that will help ease some of our concerns and fears as well once we hear that little heart pumping away. 🙂

Its so hard to know that there is someone in there, but that you can’t see them or touch them yet. We are both so impatient and can’t wait to meet our little guy or girl that’s hiding out in there. Speaking of, we want a boy. J thinks it will be a girl but I think it will be a boy. Wishful thinking? I guess we still have a couple months until we find out who’s right. 🙂

In the meantime, during this upcoming week our blueberry is turning into a raspberry and he/she’s having a party! Well not exactly, but J’s mom is hosting a party for our families and some friends in honor of our wedding in April. We are so blessed. We were going along thinking that eloping was all we would do, but her mom surprised us by saying she wanted to throw us a party. Now its turned into a huge shindig of like 50 people (of course the majority of those guests are J’s family…its our Big Gay Jewish Wedding Party LOL)! Its going to be a great time and we can’t wait to see everyone.

I will post pictures after the ultrasound on Thursday. Wish us all luck!

7 Weeks

Baby has doubled in size again this week and is as big as a blueberry now (about 1/2 inch long)! Both hemispheres of baby’s brain are developing fast, generating about 100 new cells every minute, and the heart is also becoming more complex. Arm and leg joints are now forming and baby’s third (and final) set of kidneys is in place. Baby still has a bit of a tail for now, but it will disappear and become the tailbone within a few weeks.

Our little blueberry is starting to look like a person in there!

6 Weeks

Well this has been a long week, after mandatory overtime and being anxious/nervous/excited about our ultrasound Thursday, and I’m glad to say that it is finally the weekend and we are very excited about it.

As you know, the ultrasound on Thursday was super awesome. Although technically nothing “exciting” happened, we found out that all the components of a healthy pregnancy are there, and this week the heart should start beating. We go back on June 28 for our next ultrasound and to hear the heartbeat and get the A-OK to head back to our regular OBGYN for the rest of the pregnancy. It will be nice to not have that $200 copay to see the fertility doctor each time, but I think we will kind of miss him! His office staff is amazing and he’s given us so much and I am so grateful that we made the choice to see him. It has been worth every penny we’ve spent.

There isn’t much to report this week. J is still having trouble with certain foods and is keeping away from carbs/sweets as much as healthily possible. She’s loving salad, fruit, and black olives; all good stuff except we have to keep an eye on the sodium she’s intaking from the olives! She’s been having some trouble breathing, but I think that is more allergies than anything baby-related at this point. She’s been feeling swollen and we had to buy her some new comfy work pants, but her moods have gotten better in general. Plus, her mom told her to be nice to me, maybe that had something to do with it (thanks Nana!) 🙂

Speaking of Nana, we got a nice surprise from her the other day. After our ultrasound, we were checking out our baby registry (which we have had since this whole process began, just cause we’re crazy like that!), and the crib we picked was out of stock. We checked the other colors Target had with no luck. We checked Wal-Mart, Sam’s, Babies-R-Us, and everywhere else we could think of and still no one has this crib. Finally we Googled it (because that’s how I roll) and found it at Amazon. They were out of every color but one, and at that point they had ONE left in stock. That’s right….ONE!! So Nana bought it for us and it is on its way. Of course, it won’t be put together until after the baby is here, since we may (hopefully) be moving after our lease is up at the end of March. We may move into a bigger rental, or if we can get a house by then, that would be the greatest because we are so ready to have our own space! But that’s another story for another time. 🙂

So I guess that is all for this post. Our little sweet pea is in there, growing up a storm! I can’t wait for the next ultrasound. This is all happening so fast, but we still can’t get away from that two week wait, even now that we are pregnant. 🙂

6 Weeks

Your baby is growing like crazy and is now about 1/4 of an inch long, roughly the size of a sweet pea! Baby is starting to sprout eyes, ears, nose, cheeks and chin and the heart is also beating now (almost twice as fast as yours!) and blood is starting to circulate. Those little hands and feet are webbed like paddles and might even wiggle by week’s end.

Here’s what our little sweet pea looks like this week!

Ultrasound Numero Uno

Today was our long-awaited first ultrasound! We were such a jumble of emotions today: nervous, excited, anxious, and impatient just to name a few. Its been a loooooooong week waiting for this first look at our little one, but today was the day and it was a good one at that. 🙂

I left work to pick J up from her work and go to the doctor. We normally don’t have a long wait but it took a little while today, each minute ticking by making us more and more a jumble of nerves. Finally it was our turn to be called back and the nurse asked J how she was feeling and told us she had some routine questions to ask her:

Any nausea or morning sickness? Any spotting or cramping? Any trouble going to the bathroom? Sore boobs?

Let’s just say…fiber is not J’s friend lately, don’t touch her boobs under any circumstances, no spotting but some cramping/stretching feelings on the left side, and only a little nausea mostly after the shower or right before bed. Oh and there was this incident with a roast beef sandwich last week where it didn’t agree with her and therefore took a field trip to the toilet. At least I’m good at taking care of my wife while she’s throwing up. 🙂

Anywho…so we go into the exam room and in a few minutes the doctor and the nurse come in. J exclaims, “Dr! We did it!’ He is normally kind of stoic but let a chuckle slip and just said “Well let’s see what we did first, before we get too excited.” J then asked if we would be getting pictures this time around and he said, “Yes, but they won’t be very exciting. We’re just looking to make sure the development is on schedule and that there is a yolk sac and fetal pole.” J, the nurse, and I all looked at each other and said, “It may not look like much but it is still exciting!” The nurse turned the lights out and the ultrasound commenced. We held hands as we got to see the first glimpses of our little one, nestled snugly inside J’s womb.

Before you ask, yes there is only one baby. And that tiny white speck inside of the black circle is the baby. At this point in development it is known as the fetal pole because it is just the tiny beginnings of what will become the baby, and the black circle is the amniotic sac containing the yolk sac, which is the baby’s nourishment until the placenta forms and takes over around week 10. We can rest easy knowing everything is developing as it should and our tiny little apple seed is tucked away in there safe and sound.

J does have a large cyst on her left ovary, which explains the discomfort she’s been having on that side. The doctor’s going to let it go away on its own, especially since her other cysts when on the Clomid before went away in a month or so without any intervention. For now, we are in the waiting game yet again until June 28th when we will get to come back in for the second ultrasound and get to hear the heartbeat. Once the heartbeat is located, the doctor will release us back to our regular OBGYN Dr. C for the rest of the pregnancy.

It is such an exciting time in our lives right now, and we are so happy to get to share this entire experience with you all! We love having you reading along with us, experiencing our ups and downs, and sharing in our joy. We love you all!

5 Weeks

Today marks the beginning of our 5th week of pregnancy and our little one is moving right along. Last week our baby was just a poppy seed and now, he/she has grown into a little apple seed. Sometimes this journey seems like it is so long and meeting our baby is so far away. Then, at other times, it seems like this is all happening so fast and we’re just caught in a whirlwind of emotions and things to do!

Excitement tends to be the prevalent emotion we’ve got going on, tinged with a bit of apprehension and some minor panic attacks. But that’s okay, I’m sure we’ll feel all these emotions and more a lot over the next 9 months and…well for the rest of our lives as moms. We have our ultrasound coming up later this week, and while the baby probably won’t look like much more than a gray blob in a sea of black, we can’t wait to see him/her. I think it will just make this all feel much more real and we can stop pinching ourselves each morning and realize that we’re not dreaming – this is really happening. 🙂

Your baby (looking more like a tadpole than a human) is the size of an apple seed and starting to form major organs (heart, kidney, liver, stomach) and systems (nervous, circulatory, digestive). Baby is getting ready to have a growth spurt and should double in size during the next week! Grow, baby grow!

Here’s what baby looks like inside the womb!

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