29 Weeks

I remember when J and I were 11 weeks pregnant and thought that it seemed like 40 weeks was an awfully long time to be pregnant. Now that we are on the flip side of that, with only 11 weeks left until our due date, it seems like it has gone by so quickly! Well, not quickly enough for J, who is now having chronic backaches, tummy troubles, and other unhappy symptoms and discomforts. She said it herself the other day though, that it could be a lot worse. She’s just not cut out for pregnancy. We follow a blogger who is having twins and having loads of trouble with leg swelling and J thanks her lucky stars that her ankles are still fluid-less and bony. I guess she’s choosing to see a bright side to her pregnancy journey!

Having a pregnant wife and watching her side of this journey, despite all of the discomforts, aches, and pains she’s experiencing, really makes me want to experience pregnancy myself. When we first talked about having kids, it was the plan that I would be the one doing the baby-baking. J just wasn’t interested in being pregnant herself. But when the time came that we were ready to start trying, J decided she didn’t want to miss out on the experience and as she is a little bit older than me, we decided that she would “go first”. I know that she doesn’t regret this decision now, and I’m so happy she chose to experience it. Besides, I told her that it would help her be more sympathetic to my pregnancy woes when it’s my turn! 😉

Regardless, it is an amazing and incredible journey and I stand in awe of my wife and what she is going through to start our family. There are times when she is talking about Jaxson kicking her or having to pee all the time or how she’s got horrific heartburn (we have found that’s how Jax lets her know he’s hungry!) and I find myself being a little envious of her. At least I feel more involved now since I get to feel him a lot more as he’s moved up in her belly and is close to the surface. The other morning, I was feeling her belly and it felt like I was poking at an arm when he responded by poking me back. It was so cool. You can hear his heartbeat now too and sometimes even see him moving under her skin. Call me crazy, but I can’t wait until my turn to be pregnant so I can experience the miracle of baking a bun in the oven. She laughs at me now and tells me she’ll see how I feel about it all once I’m actually pregnant. I guess we will just have to wait and see. 🙂 But for now, I’m happy being her partner and supporting her as she copes with all of the changes her body is going through, each doctor’s visit and ultrasound, and equally as impatiently awaiting the day that little Jax makes his big debut.

This upcoming weekend we are going for our 3D ultrasound. She will be 30 weeks on that day and I can’t wait to see Jaxson again. The ultrasound place said that the picture should be pretty accurate as to what he will look like on his birthday, just a little less pudgy since he has a few pounds to pack on still! Both of our moms, my sister, and J’s cousin are all coming too and I know they are all just as excited to see him. Our little boy has so much love already. I think that is one of the most amazing things of all – just how much not only J and I but everyone can love someone so much that we haven’t even met yet.

We just had Thanksgiving last Thursday and I am thankful for my family and my friends, and my wife and the family we are building together. The miracle of life is truly inspiring. It changes every fiber of your being, your outlook on life, your priorities, your purpose. Jaxson is not even here in our arms yet and I’ve seen the change happening in both J and I – we aren’t waiting until he is here to become mothers, we are already beginning to see the world from that viewpoint. I can’t wait to see how much more we change as people, as wives, as a family, and how our parents will change too. I can’t wait to see them as grandparents to our baby boy and the look on their faces when they meet him for the first time. I am thankful for love because without it, J and I wouldn’t be here together on this journey. 🙂

Jaxson is about 16 inches long and weighs about as much as a butternut squash (just over 3 pounds) and his weight will nearly triple before his birthday! His head is also growing bigger this week to accommodate his brain’s growth. He is keeping active in there and is continuing to pile on fat under his skin. J may start feeling his hiccups soon as he practices breathing the amniotic fluid.

Jaxson is going to be a very active baby based on how much he moves in J’s belly!


28 Weeks

Oh boy. We had our checkup this past Thursday with the interim doctor at our OB’s office. It was difficult, to say the least. She didn’t really get off on the right foot with us, as she walks in, looks at me, and goes, “Are you guys twins?” I responded with, “No, this is my wife.” And the doctor then says, “Oh, do you get that a lot – the twin thing?” And in my most annoyed voice I simply said, “Unfortunately.” Now, we do get this question a lot because I guess two plus-size girls with brown hair in ponytails and rectangular eyeglasses means that we look so similar that we are confused for twins. But why on Earth this woman decided to walk in the door the first time meeting us and say this – I’ll never know.

So as we are off on the wrong foot, let’s keep running with it. She berated J for having high sugar at her one-hour glucose test and immediately starting going on and on about how J needs to be on a special diet, pills, and possibly insulin. She also started rattling on about J’s marginal placenta previa and how she is going to have to have a C-section two weeks before her due date. J mentioned something about being nervous about the epidural to have the C-section, and instead of being comforting, the doctor says that if J doesn’t get an epidural she’ll be put to sleep for the C-section and I wouldn’t be able to be in the room. Not the best news to give someone in the first fifteen minutes of the appointment. She instructed J to be on pelvic rest, which means no lifting or bending or standing for too long, and when J asked for a note for her job about it, the doctor asks J what should she put on the note. Really? Didn’t you just say what needed to be avoided? She just gave off an air of cockiness but then she was unsure and unconfident in her decisions.

The doctor also asked if we had chosen a pediatrician yet (yep!), if we had a name picked out, and if we were planning to circumcise. Now that’s a hairy subject. We put a post on Facebook a while ago just asking for opinions about it, knowing full well what our decision was already, and we were shocked and outraged at the responses. Some people were really just so rude about it. I don’t care if that’s what you chose to do for your child, that’s your choice. But don’t judge me and tell me that I am doing the wrong thing by choosing not to circumcise. And this doctor, instead of just writing down our answer (not circumcising), she turned and gave us a look and said “Oh.” Then, she got pissed because of J’s weight. Let me tell you, J has only gained 17 pounds the entire pregnancy, and from the attitude in this lady’s voice, well she may as well have just called her a cow. She was that intense.

We really miss Dr. Connors. And we can only hope that she will be back in time for our delivery on February 10th (she is supposed to end her medical leave on January 28th, which is cutting it close!). Now that we see the OB every two weeks, we are really dreading it and stressing out about seeing this woman again. There is another doctor in the practice, so we are going to call tomorrow and see if there is any way we can go to her until Dr. Connors returns instead of this unbearable woman. We are trying not to think about what happens if we are stuck with her, because J said there is no way she trusts her to cut her open for a C-section. Honestly, I am pretty easygoing and a “go with the flow” kind of person, but this woman sets me on edge like nobody’s business. I don’t even feel confident in having her for a C-section if that were to happen, so I know how upset J must be. In fact, she was up the other night crying because of it because she was so stressed out. On top of regular pregnancy woes, J has anxiety trouble, and since being pregnant she can’t take her medication. So she really needs a doctor to calm her down, not increase her stress levels. So if we can’t switch to Dr. Clayton (the other doctor in Dr. Connors’ practice), we are going to see how the perinatologist appointment goes on December 19th. If J’s placenta has moved up, then the chance of a C-section is much lower and we may try to stick it out until Dr. Connors comes back. But if it hasn’t moved up or is getting worse and we can’t switch to Dr. Clayton until Dr. Connors comes back, then we may have to consider switching out of her practice altogether. It scares me to do so, but I think it would be the best to ease our worries.

But, we will just have to see how tomorrow goes when J calls and hope for the best. Please let us be able to see Dr. Clayton instead. And please dear placenta, move up up and away from J’s cervix, for so many reasons.

J also had to go take a 3-hour glucose test again on Friday by this doctor’s orders, which of course made her ill all day. Her arms looked like pincushions by the end! I am just hoping the results give a better picture of what is going on so maybe this doctor will back off some. I know it is important to manage gestational diabetes, but without any benchmark readings to base it on, I think she didn’t have the full picture.

It’s been a stressful week for sure, with a lot of heavy decisions weighing on us. At least the Fall term at school is over in just a couple of weeks, so that will be one less thing to worry about. I am just hoping for good news from our OB’s office and our perinatologist. And what a great time to have to start a lower carb diet with the holidays coming up. We are just trying to do the right things for us and our baby boy, and wondering why we are being tested with this situation right now. With only 12 weeks left, we are getting down to the wire and each decision we make is hugely important.

Enough bitching (LOL) – today Jax was really hurting J. She had to go lay down because he was cramming himself into her pelvis and kicking. So I started rubbing her stomach and pressing on him, hoping to get him to move up and he kicked me so hard my hand bounced off her stomach and I could see her stomach moving from his motions! I laid my hand there for a couple minutes and it is almost continuous motion now, kick kick punch punch kick punch kick kick. I don’t know how J does it because he is super active! We are going to have our hands full when he is a toddler for sure! The only thing that got him to calm down was me putting my favorite singer’s new album on and placing it on her stomach. Finally he moved up and out of the way and gave her some relief, but we just laughed because it was my music that calmed him down. Jax is definitely going to be a lot like me after all. 🙂

We are scheduling another 3D ultrasound for December 1st if we can. We will be 30 weeks that day, so I think it would be really great to get to see Jax again when he really looks like a human being instead of an alien! It is a bright spot that we are looking forward to among all the other crap we are dealing with and we’re just focusing on that for now. Afterwards we are going to go to Build-a-Bear for J’s birthday. I think we are going to make a bear (or two!) for Jax!

So for now, I’ll end this post and get ready for bed. Its Thanksgiving this Thursday and I’m choosing to be thankful for all of the wonderful things in our lives, and keeping the negatives in perspective. We can get through this, we always have. I just hope that we know the right choice to make for ourselves, and for Jax. 🙂

Jaxson is about 2.5 pounds now and close to 16 inches long (he’s a Chinese cabbage this week)! J’s womb is getting crowded and Jax doesn’t have much room to move around, but his kicks and punches are definitely more noticeable. Jaxson can also blink and has all of his eyelashes now. He is also able to have REM sleep and even dreams (although of what, I’m not sure!).

Sweet dreams, little guy!

27 Weeks…Third Trimester Begins!

WOW! Time certainly is flying by now. Not only is this the beginning of the third and final trimester, but it is also the start of our busy time of year. Between the holidays coming up, birthdays, and general end of year preparations, it is finally setting in that OMG, Jaxson will be here soon.

We only have 13 weeks to go now, and trust me, we are ready, sort of. Yes. No. Okay, maybe the word isn’t ready, but we are feeling slightly more prepared and way more anxious for the big day. Its funny, because we have been working on getting the nursery in order, and it is making us more calm about it all, but at the same time it is making us stop and think, there’s going to be a baby here soon and this is where he will live. We both have our moments of panic, fear, excitement, and a mixture of all of the above, but despite it all, Jaxson is coming and ready or not…well there isn’t really an option for us not to be ready! 🙂

All of the grandparents seem to be really excited and impatient too. The other day, my mom told me that she already loves Jax so much and can’t wait to cuddle with him! It made my heart smile. And J’s mom sent us a card that said she couldn’t wait to hold him. Our boy is going to have so much love, he won’t know what to do with himself.

In other news, we found out yesterday that our donor is no longer listed on the NY Cryos website! We have been talking about using a different donor when I start trying to get pregnant, so I guess it just goes to confirm that decision. We want to choose a donor that looks more like J, preferably a Jewish one so that both of our kids will have that ancestry. We feel that will just help to make our family a little more cohesive and unified.

We have our sixth month OB appointment this upcoming Thursday with our interim doctor. We are nervous but trusting that Dr. Connors left us in good hands. I hear our OB visits will start becoming more frequent soon too. Welcome to the busy season for sure!

Jaxson now measures around 15 inches long and weighs a little over two pounds (like an eggplant). In the last trimester, he’ll gain about half a pound each week and a few more inches in length. Jaxson pretty much looks like he will on his birthday, although he’ll be plumper once he arrives as fat continues to develop under his skin. His muscle tone is being fine tuned (hence all those kicks to the gut J is feeling) and his brain is showing activity now, focusing on developing Jaxson’s visual and auditory senses.

Three more months until Jaxson is here!!

Perinatologist Appointment #2

Today’s visit at the perinatologist, Dr. Morales, went very well. Everything with little Jaxson is absolutely perfect – all of his measurements were fine and he’s growing like a weed! Jax is already weighing about 2 lb 3 oz. J still has marginal placenta previa, which means that the edge of the placenta is sitting just on the edge of the cervix opening. Dr. Morales isn’t worried at all, he said that 90% of the time cases like ours move up and out of the way before its time to deliver. He is very optimistic that J won’t have to have a C-section, so we were happy to hear that. We do have to go back in 6 or 7 weeks to have yet another ultrasound (this will be #9!) to make sure it has moved up. That puts us just after Christmas and J will be around 33 weeks by that time. Crazy! We want to do another 3D ultrasound, probably closer to the beginning of December and that will give us a grand total of 10 ultrasounds for this pregnancy.

We were very happy to know that Jax is perfect in every way, as if we had any doubt! It was so great to see him. He has really gotten big! I realized that we never posted the pictures from our last visit to Dr. Morales, so to compare, here is one from 9/25/12 followed by the one from today, 11/7/12.

It looks like he is saluting! 9.25.12

We definitely think he’s got J’s nose at this point! 11.7.12

Baby Shower! 26 Weeks

This weekend was pretty amazing. Not only did we hit the 6 month mark on Saturday, but it was also the day of our long-awaited baby shower. There were a few stressful moments when we thought everything was going to be a disaster (it was 80 degrees out and the remote for the air conditioning was LOCKED UP!) but luckily everything worked out and came together beautifully at the end (a neighbor had the key to unlock the remote for the air conditioning! YAY!). Our decorations were wonderful and really spruced the place up. The food was great and we had plenty of it to give away to the moms and us and Betti (J’s cousin who helped with the shower!). The games weren’t too bad and everyone really seemed to get along and have a great time. I know that J and I did and it was a lot of hard work that was well worth it.

We got so many awesome gifts! We felt so loved and cherished, and know that our little boy will be well taken care of now with all of our new goodies. We got some gift cards so we could order the bedding we wanted online and just about everything else was gifted! We have a few spare things to pick up, but overall it was an extremely successful shower and we couldn’t have asked for a better day. 🙂

In pregnancy news, Saturday was 26 WEEKS! That means we only have about 14 left! I can’t believe it. The grand total, as of today, is 97 days left until our due date. I am just so amazed and how far we have come and while it seems like it has taken forever, now the time is really starting to speed up. Once we put all of the baby stuff away from the shower, we looked at each other and said…WOW this is for real. We’re having a baby! Something about having all the things we need and filling up the nursery just made it feel so tangible.

Of course we are nervous about becoming parents, but I know and am so thankful for our wonderful support system and even though it seems daunting, I know that we are not in this alone. This is truly a wonderful feeling, to know that we have such love and support from our family and friends.

Wednesday we go back to Dr. Morales for our high-resolution ultrasound to check on the positioning of the placenta. As long as it has moved up and away from J’s cervix, we will be happy! She dreads the thought of having to go on bedrest, especially with 3 months left to go! We are just hoping for the best and (im)patiently waiting for Wednesday to find out. On the plus side, we get to see Jax again which is ALWAYS a happy occasion. 🙂

I will post some pictures of the baby shower once I get them from everyone, and of course I will keep you posted on how the doctor’s visit goes on Wednesday. Keep your fingers crossed for a good-positioned placenta and no bedrest!

Jaxson is almost 15 inches long and weighs nearly 2 pounds! His ears are well-developed and he can hear both of his mommies singing, laughing, and talking to him now. If they haven’t already, Jax’s eyes may start opening this week, although he won’t be able to see much in the darkness. He is also giving his lungs a workout by breathing in amniotic fluid and he is already taking in J’s antibodies in order to boost his immune system.

I wonder if he thinks we are crazy now that he can hear us loud and clear!