The long story will be forthcoming, but just a quick update to all of you out there that our little bundle of joy arrived safe and sound tonight at 8:14 pm on 1/31/2013. Jaxson Bennett weighed 7 pounds and 13 ounces and was 20 1/2 inches long. Both J and he are doing extremely well, although a little battered and bruised from the day’s adventures. More to come soon!
31 Jan 2013 Leave a comment
26 Jan 2013 Leave a comment
There isn’t much to say today, except that there are only 15 more days until our due date! Within two weeks we could be holding our son in our arms and wondering just what we ever did without him. Until then, there is not much else to do except for wait…wait…wait.
We’ve done our practice runs to the hospital (convenient since it is right next to our OB’s office) and packed our bags for J and Jax. We know when to call the OB or head to the hospital. Everyone’s on standby and my work knows I’m taking the week off right after he’s born. I think we are ready…now if only Jax would get the memo to hurry up! 😉
J has begun feeling Braxton Hick’s contractions on a daily basis. She’s had a couple episodes so far today in fact. So we know her body is getting ready and it is really just a matter of time before Jax makes his big debut. YAY!
And since Jax is the length of a leek this week, I thought the following picture was fitting and funny. We took it forever ago while grocery shopping…who knew it would ever be relevant?! So here you go, this is me being a geek with a leek. 🙂
Hope everyone has a great day today! 🙂
Jaxson is just as tall if not taller than a leek now and is weighing somewhere between the average birth weight, between 7 and 10 pounds. The white coating on his skin, the vernix caseosa, is slowly shedding since he won’t need waterproof protection for much longer. His eyes have color now, but it will probably darken in the months after he’s born. We are both hoping that he’ll have green eyes like J, but I guess we will have to wait to see! He’s got a firm grip and all of his organs are ready for outside life now.
Jaxson is ready for the world, but is the world ready for him?
24 Jan 2013 2 Comments
Only 17 days left until our due date and we are both so impatient and ready for Jax to be here! We had our weekly OB appointment this afternoon and J’s strep B test was negative, so no antibiotics needed during delivery! Also, no cervical check this week since she is not having any contractions, although she has had a couple of Braxton Hicks contractions earlier in the month. And possibly the best news of all, our regular OB Dr. Connors returns next week! YAY! We are so happy we made it back to her, although we will miss Dr. Johnson too.
We keep getting gifts left at our door from our registry, which is awesome. We didn’t think we would be getting anything else, so it has been a very pleasant surprise! We got a high chair cover, play yard and sheets, and our second car seat. We now have literally everything we NEED for Jax’s arrival, and my parents keep buying more things as time goes on. We ran into my mom and sister at Target and every time we would go “Aww this is so cute!” it seemed to find its way into my mom’s basket. My parents went to IKEA this past Saturday and bought some wooden trucks and a cute wooden train set like they had for my brother when he was little. And speaking of, my dad had just gone in the attic and actually pulled out my brother’s toy trains and Matchbox cars. I remember playing with them when I was little too, so it was fun to go down memory lane, and look forward to playing with them again soon with my son. 🙂
We have an iPod speaker in Jax’s room and I had an old iPod that I don’t use anymore that we have been planning to put kid-friendly tunes on, so J and I worked on that some this week. Let me tell you, these aren’t your old school lullabies a la Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. We found a whole bunch of popular songs turned into lullabies, such as Bob Marley, Lady Gaga, and Queen. So cool!
We got in some diaper practice this week too when we had to take our cat Bubba to the vet. He pees every single time we try to put him in the carrier, all over the floor and whoever is holding him. So this time we figured we would try putting a diaper on him until he was in the carrier since we had some size 2 diapers handy. Success! Everyone remained dry and it was as lot less messy and stressful than usual (well, for us at least!). He got his steroid shot and he seems to be feeling much better already. 🙂
At least we have some practice under our belts…now we just need the baby here! Its so close, but still feels so far away sometimes…
19 Jan 2013 3 Comments
After (literally) months of waiting, the baby watch has officially started! While I know it is entirely unlikely that Jax will appear on time, or even early, the usual time frame for babies being born starts this week and stretches to 41 weeks (although we really hope not!). There are 22 days left until his due date, and while my mom says I should stop counting to avoid a negative number when he’s running late, I can’t!
Everything that we could possibly have ready and prepared ahead of time is done, to the point where we look around the nursery for something to do/wash/clean/etc and end up sadly saying, “Well, I guess we’re all done here.” Except for actually having a baby in the crib, of course. 🙂
I got to go to the OB visit this Thursday and meet Dr. Johnson…BIG FAN! Finally, we got an interim doctor that we really like and get along with. Not only is she very down-to-earth and calms J’s nerves, but she included me 100% in the visit too. We all talked about our concerns regarding labor, such as what to do and when to call them and/or come in or go to the hospital. We talked about pain management during labor and Dr. Johnson calmed J’s fears about getting an epidural and asked us to sit down and really think about what we wanted and devise a birth objectives list. She doesn’t call them birth plans, because like with all plans that are made, something almost always goes against the plan. She also gave me some expectations about my role in the labor and delivery process, which I liked.
I finally got my ducks in a row and emailed L in NYC and P in Germany back after they reached out to me on the blog. Our initial apprehension about the whole thing has dissolved and I think it is great to find others with common ground, even around the world. The one thing that I liked, is that all of us aren’t sure how in touch we’d like to be over the years, but we do agree that some sort of contact is a good idea. So at least we are all on the same page. I got a very nice reply back from L in NYC – she and her wife are due in May. I am SO glad to have found another lesbian couple that is sharing our journey, as that is something very rare to come by, especially where we live. I am glad that this blog has helped us all to connect and I hope that if there is anyone else out there that used Todd as their donor, that they too will get in touch. Consider this an open invitation!
We started cake decorating classes last week…it was fine and we learned some good tips about cake baking that we hadn’t thought of and that could translate over to baking cheesecakes as well. We did some basic cookie decorating and the only hiccup in the night was the usual question from the instructor, “Are you two sisters?” She was nice about it when we politely said “No, this is my wife.” and moved on. However, the woman sitting next to J then proceeded to act as if we had the plague and she would catch the gay if she touched anything of ours. She scooted her chair over, would barely take paperwork from J when we had to pass it around, and was generally overwhelmingly homophobic. This is not something we are new to, unfortunately, and afterwards this woman and the instructor were talking about the church service they attended on Sunday, and it all made sense. I grew up in a Christian setting, so I understand where they are coming from, but unfortunately many of them get confused at the “hate the sin, love the sinner” mantra and drop everything but the “hate” part. One of my best friends is 100% Christian and has NEVER treated me in a poor manner because I am gay, so to have the majority of other Christians treat us with such contempt is really upsetting.
I know that the road ahead for us, and for Jax too, is one that will be challenging at times. But I hope that we instill in Jax a good sense of self and appreciation and love for all others, regardless of their race, creed, gender, or sexual preference. I hope that we raise a well-rounded boy, that is good and kind and loving, yet strong and willing to stand up for himself and others. I guess that is all that any parent – gay, straight, or single – could ever hope to achieve. See, we’re not that different from each other after all. 🙂
I’ve never heard of a winter melon, but that’s how much Jax weighs this week, about 7 pounds. He is considered full-term now and if he decided to make his big debut, he would most likely be ready to take on the world with little to no problems. He may have a full head of hair already (if he’s anything like J he might come out with a full-on afro!) and he’s already preparing his first poop for us to change his diaper. He keeps on practicing inhaling and exhaling, sucking, gripping, and blinking, and of course some kickboxing moves too. His hiccups are a daily occurrence now (sometimes many times a day) and its funny to see J’s stomach rolling around from his movements.
I hope Jaxson is just as ready to meet us as we are to meet him!
12 Jan 2013 1 Comment
FOUR. MORE. WEEKS. 29 more days until Jaxson’s due date. Less than a month now until our little man marches into our lives and steals our hearts in person. I can’t wait!
J is beginning to get nervous about the birth, but I think her current discomfort is outweighing her fears for now. She’s ready to have him outside of her womb and in our arms already! Everyone keeps sharing their birth stories, some good, some bad, but I know that it won’t be anything compared to experiencing it yourself. For once, we have relinquished some control when it comes to our birth plan – we’ll just have to see how it goes when we get there. This is one thing you can’t be in perfect control of, and that’s okay. Its setting the precedent for the next 18+ years for sure!
We bought some more wall decals for the nursery and it looks super adorable. I haven’t posted any pictures of it yet, and now that we also put on the bedding, I think its time to show the finished product.
We are definitely ready for Jax to get here. J thinks that he will come early if not right on time. I have always wanted him here on February 1st because that is our original anniversary and I just think that would be neat. It is J’s first kid and usually they run later, so I guess we will just have to wait and see. I am just ready for my turn to hold him already! J’s been hogging him for the last 9 months! 😉
Oh, I almost forgot to mention, the other day we received an email from P., another mom that used our same donor. They are just coming out of the woodwork! She wrote a very nice email and I will be sure to pass it along to the other moms we’ve made contact with. Jax has two half-sisters floating around out there, the one in NYC and now we know of one in Germany! Everyone keeps encouraging me to keep up with the blog after Jaxson is born and I will most definitely be doing so. All of the people who have contacted me because of this blog and our friends and family all love reading our updates and hearing about what is going on in our lives. I think its a great way to keep in touch and I am always so happy to hear that people like hearing what we have to say, even those not related to us in the day-to-day sense. We even have a reader in Thailand! We feel like Celesbians (celebrity lesbians LOL) with all this attention. I am just glad that what I set out to accomplish, writing a blog relating our experiences as lesbians making babies and showing that we are just normal like everyone else, is getting the attention I wanted it to and reaching the people it needs to. J keeps saying that I need to write a book and become famous, so maybe that will be the next step. It is something I have always wanted to do, so it might just happen!
I really do appreciate all of the support we get here on the blog and in reality. Your words of encouragement are much appreciated and I’m glad that I’m at least giving you all something (marginally?) entertaining to read. I know some posts are more mundane than others, but I assure you that they’ll get much more interesting once he’s a person and not a fruit/vegetable anymore. 😉
Jaxson is similar to a crenshaw melon this week, and weighs about 6.5 pounds now. He’s most likely already at his birth length, somewhere between 19 and 22 inches. His gums are now rigid and ready for mealtime, and his circulation and immune systems are up to speed. The liver and kidneys are in full working order as well, and he should be able to breathe on his own if he was born now.
Jaxson’s big task these next four weeks is to pack on the pounds before his birthday!
05 Jan 2013 Leave a comment
I know that I’ve said it a million times, but it is truly amazing that we are in the home stretch. If I sound like a broken record, please know it is because I am just so anxious/excited/nervous/impatient/in awe that our baby boy will be here SOON. Now that the bulk of our doctor’s appointments are over, and after 15 ultrasounds (give or take a few), we are just waiting for Jaxson to arrive. Of course we will start having weekly OB checkups here pretty soon, but other than that, it is time for Jax to keep beefing up and for J and I to keep calm and prepare for our lives to completely and incredibly change.
We’ve got the hospital bag packed, we pre-registered at the hospital, all his Newborn-3 months clothing is washed, his bedding and blankets are washed and ready to go on the crib, the stroller is put together, the car seat is installed, and everything is finally just right in the nursery. We’ve only organized and re-organized it about twenty times in the last 3 months, but that’s okay, because at least we could actively do something to prepare, rather than just sit around and wait. I think that these last 5 weeks will go by the quickest and slowest all at once – quickly because its ONLY 5 more weeks and slowly because its the LAST 5 weeks.
The excitement is definitely building for us and our families too. Now that we have the great news that J no longer has placenta previa, we can plan for a natural birth. Not to knock anyone that does choose to (or has to) have a C-Section, but it was just something we didn’t want to have to go through if we could help it. So it was a huge relief to hear that it wasn’t going to be mandatory. Also, to go along with our natural birth, that means that both of our moms can be in the delivery room. If we had had to have a C-Section, it would have just been me allowed to go in, which would have been fine, but if at all possible we wanted our moms to experience this with us too. I know they are so excited! 🙂
Now that we are down the wire, sleep is the most important thing J needs, but due to major heartburn, Jax’s hiccups and kicks, difficulty breathing, me snoring/humming in my sleep, Bubba (our cat) yowling at the walls or generally being noisy…sleep is a luxury J isn’t able to indulge in much lately. Yet, despite immense exhaustion resulting from said lack of sleep, J’s nesting instincts have been in overdrive lately and now that she is stuck at home all day, she doesn’t have anything better to do than clean. I have to say, I like our arrangement of her being a stay-at-home mom a lot so far. It feels good to come home to a nice clean house each day after work, and once Jaxson is here, it will be nice to know that he hasn’t been stuck in daycare all day with someone else caring for him. Don’t get me wrong – once he is potty-trained or close to it, he’ll be going to daycare! But for now, while he’s an infant, I like that one of us will be home with him to care for him and enjoy all the special moments of babyhood. I love coming home to my wife at the end of my day now, and I am looking forward to coming home to my family at the end of the day in a little over a month.
Thirty-six days and counting…Wow.
J’s uterus is now about 1,000 times its usual size, growing from about the size of a fist, and now rests just under her rib cage at this point. I’m sure it feels like she’s carrying around a basketball, one that kicks and punches! Jax can hear everything now that his hearing is fully developed, and responds best to high-pitched noises (they penetrate the womb the best). He’s weighing about as much as a coconut now, just over 6 pounds and is topping out around 19 inches. He is head-down now and locked and loaded and ready for D-Day!
Jax won’t be doing somersaults anymore, but his kicks and punches should remain just as frequent.
03 Jan 2013 1 Comment
J had lots of doctor’s appointments today and luckily they all went very well! She had her first meeting with the new interim OB today, Dr. Johnson, and it went very well! She was very nice and had some good information for J. It was definitely a much smoother meeting than the first time we met Dr. Carlin. Although Dr. Connors doesn’t return until the beginning of February, J did say she would be comfortable with this doctor if she did have to deliver early. J’s blood pressure was perfect as usual, so YAY for no complications with that at least.
J also went to the pulmonologist today and the thrush in her throat from her asthma medications is completely gone. So everything is good there and she doesn’t have to go back to the pulmonologist for another 6 months. The medication seems to be working well for controlling her asthma for now so all is well there.
After I got off of work this afternoon, J picked me up and we went to Dr. Morales together. The ultrasound was painful for J just because Jaxson is taking up so much room in there now! But we got to see him on the screen which is awesome as usual and all of his measurements came back perfect. Not only that, but we got EXCELLENT news today – the placenta has moved up so no more placenta previa! And NO mandatory C-Section either! DOUBLE YAY! We were both so relieved to hear the good news. It was a great doctor day for sure!
Oh and we got to see that Jax does have some hair sprouted on his head (who knew you could see that on an ultrasound?!) and also that he is estimated to weigh around 6 pounds already. Fatty! LOL I guess we will have to wait and see when he’s born, but its looking like some people may have made a better guess than others! 🙂
I am still amazed that we are in the home stretch, although J says that now that we got big relief on our doctor’s appointments, it will be more of a “hurry up and wait” game. This is probably true, however, I am thinking that time will fly by and Jax will be here before we know it! Our next OB appointment is January 17th and J gets the Strep B test then. Until then, we are enjoying a break from all these doctor’s appointments! 🙂